Self Care: Any activity that you do to take care of yourself. It heals your body from the daily stressors, and refreshes your mind. It relaxes and rejuvenates your body. It gets you ready for the next adventure, or even just the next day. It is the practice of meaningful activities or rituals that you do that help you feel safe, grounded and ready for what life throws at you.

There are multiple types of self care, though one is not more important than another. The list of self cares types are:

• Physical Self-care

Physical self-care is when you take care of your body. Choosing a good diet, sleeping well, and taking care of your hygiene.

• Emotional Self-care

Emotional self-care involves your mental wellbeing, being able to sit with your emotions and acknowledge effects.

• Social Self-care
• Mental Self-care
• Spiritual Self-care
• Practical Self-care

It is close to the new year, and we are again at that time we ask, should I make a new years resolution? This is a big question that usually lead to big ideas, and then small follow through. This repeated loss of momentum or not accomplishing goals leaves us with a bad taste in our mouth, and little willingness to create goals, or even work on self-improvement goals we feel we will never accomplish. So this leads to many questions one of being what seems to get in the way of this potential growth? With some self-reflection one may ask if we are truly invested in self-care, or more pointedly do we have self-love? Exploring this more, one could ask what are the biggest obstacles of self-love? what is your biggest obstacle? This is a chance to reflect on this question and maybe put some more thought into it and maybe work towards to overcoming this feeling of stuck or lack of growth. Please take a moment to think about this and write back to me here in the chat what your thoughts are on this and what possible barriers you may be experiencing.

For this new year lets start with a couple of measures to see where you are at in a couple areas of your life so as we start this journey we will have better idea on areas that would be really helpful.

first would be to do a check in with your self-love, this first one is a 0-5 scale 0 being not at all, and 5 being completely (please pick one rating each question and record the responses to add up at the end):

1. I really love myself : 0 1 2 3 4 5

2. I have many positive qualities: 0 1 2 3 4 5

3. I practice self-care regularly: 0 1 2 3 4 5

4. I feel worthy of love: 0 1 2 3 4 5

5. I am a good person: 0 1 2 3 4 5

6. I have the power to create positive change in my life: 0 1 2 3 4 5

7. I make good decisions: 0 1 2 3 4 5

8. I like how I look: 0 1 2 3 4 5

9.I honor and maintain healthy boundaries( both for myself and others): 0 1 2 3 4 5

10. I deserve a good life: 0 1 2 3 4 5

11. I have healthy relationships with others: 0 1 2 3 4 5

Scoring

0-11: You’re in the right place, you have a great opportunity to start loving yourself and building up your sense of self-worth.

12-22: You’re open to self-love. The practice of self-care with help you gain self-confidence and become more aware of how to be more loving with yourself.

23-33: You have a fairly healthy relationship with yourself. An intentional and consistent self-love and self-care practice will help you strengthen it further.

34 or more: You’re well connected to your heart and have been loving yourself well. Keep going!

Self-Esteem Check-In

Directions: Rate for 0 to 10 how much you believe each statement. 0 meaning you don’t believe it at all, 10 meaning you believe it completely.

Statement                 Rating 0-10

I believe in myself

I am just as valuable as other people

I would rather be me than someone else

I am proud of my accomplishments

I feel good when I get compliments

I can handle criticism

I am good at solving problems

I love trying new things

I respect myself

I like the way I look

I love myself even when others reject me

I know my positive qualities

I focus on my successes and not my failures

I’m not afraid to make mistakes

I am happy to be me

Overall, how would you rate your self esteem on the following scale: 0-10

(0 completely dislike who I am 10 I love my self a lot.)

Total score divided by 16 is your Self Esteem score

What would need to change in order for you to move up the rating scale?